Oct. 24, 2023

3 Mindful Minutes: Living with integrity

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Learn to live with integrity.In these short-casts, Cass Dunn, Clinical Psychologist & Mindfulness Meditation teacher gives you tips and advice on how to feel a little less crappy and a little more happy in just 3 minutes.
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Hey, it's cast. While I take a little planning break

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to prepare for the next season of Crappy to Happy,

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I want to share with you something I created back

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in twenty twenty called three Mindful Minutes. These shortcasts were

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incredibly popular and got many people through some tough times,

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so I hope you enjoy this brief episode.

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Hi. There, I'm cast. Done. Clinical psychologist, mindfulness meditation teacher,

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host of the Crappy to Happy podcast, and author of

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the Crappy to Happy books. Welcome to today's three Mindful Minutes. Today,

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I want to talk about living in integrity. Being in

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integrity typically means being true to your word. In other words,

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doing what you say you're going to do. Being in

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integrity also means being true to yourself. It means honoring

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what is true and right for you, instead of denying

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or abandoning yourself and your own needs. It means ensuring

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that your outer behavior is in alignment with your inner

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thoughts and feelings. Now, I don't mean that that means

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you should act on every impulse, like when you feel

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like screaming during your eleventh Zoom meeting of the day.

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But I do mean that your outward choices, Your actions,

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your behaviors should be in alignment with your values, the

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things that you consider to be most important. When there's

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a disconnect between what we think and what we do,

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it creates dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is an internal tension that

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feels uncomfortable. So, for example, if one of my values

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is being present with my family and I'm distracted by

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work until all hours every night, that creates discomfort for me.

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There's tension there. If I talk a lot about the

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benefits of meditation, which I do, but I haven't found

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time to practice meditation for six months, there's a misalignment there.

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And perhaps if you're a person in charge of hiring

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staff and you believe in diversity and you think there

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should be more minority groups represented in the workforce, but

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the last six people you've employed have been straight white men,

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there's a misalignment there. And I'm sure you can think

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of many, many other examples. So typically, when we experience

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this kind of dissonance, this tension, this conflict, it is

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much easier to justify our behavior than it is to

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change it. In other words, if I feel I can't

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do something different or it would be uncomfortable, a challenging

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for me to do something different, to do what's actually

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true for me. Then I adjust my thinking. Instead, I

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come up with a convenient excuse or a justification for

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my behavior. I might minimize the significance of my actions.

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I explain it away somehow. The way to live in

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integra is to take responsibility for this misalignment, to stop justifying,

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and start taking steps to ensure that your outward behavior

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truly is a reflection of your inner thoughts and feelings

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and values. It might not be able to happen overnight,

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but taking those steps to bring yourself back into integrity

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will go a long way to boosting your self esteem

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and your self respect, because you will know that you're

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a person who walks their talk. To live with more integrity,

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spend some time noticing areas in your life where there

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is this misalignment and consider what steps you might take

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to change your behavior rather than continuing to justify or

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deny it. Keep your agreements both with yourself and with

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other people, and spend time regularly connecting with what's most

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important to you, and ask yourself every day if your

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actions and your choices truly are a reflection of who

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you are, what matters to you, and what you want

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your life to be about.

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Thanks for listening to today's three Mindful Minutes. To hear

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more of these, just search Crappy to Happy three Mindful

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Minutes wherever you listen to podcasts. Of course, to find

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out more about me, cast Done, head to my website

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castdone dot com

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