Feb. 6, 2019

Achieving your goals with Turia Pitt

Achieving your goals with Turia Pitt
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Season 3 Mindset Goals & Habits

No-one knows more about achieving her goals like the powerhouse that is Turia Pitt. Horrifically injured in a grass fire while competing in an ultramarathon, Turia shares with Cass Dunn the mindset strategies she used which helped her overcome the odds and achieve massive goals.You can buy Turia's book Happy and Other Ridiculous Aspirations here: https://tinyurl.com/c5hun4ux
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Transcript
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A listener production. Welcome to season three of Crappy to Happy.

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I'm cast done and on behalf of Tiff and I.

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I want to thank you so much for your support.

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Over the last twelve months, Crappy to Happy has been

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downloaded millions of times.

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It was handpicked by Apple to be.

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Listed in their Best Podcast of twenty eighteen list, which

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warms my heart.

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And most importantly, every week we get.

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Messages from you telling us how much you've enjoyed and appreciated.

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All the topics that we've brought you so far.

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I know that you're all pumped to get stuck into

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a whole lot of new episodes, and right now you're

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probably wondering, Bud, where's Tiff. Tiff Hall has obviously been

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my co host up until now, but TIF has recently

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been very busy working on an exciting new project which

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you will no doubt be hearing about soon if you

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haven't already, and her schedule has meant that she has

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been unable to record any more episodes of the show.

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See here's what I decided to do in TIFF's absence.

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I decided that I wanted to bring you the most interesting,

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inspiring and intelligent people who are all able in various

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ways to help you continue moving along the path from

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crappy to happy. In upcoming episodes, I will be bringing

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you conversations with the likes of Christina Carlson, who the

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founder of kicki K Stores about the importance of dreaming

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big and finding your why, Tara and Bromfort, the founder

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of the Body Image movement and director of the Embraced documentary.

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We talked about the importance of learning to love the

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skin you're in, and Jamilla Risby about how to be

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more confident at work, and so many more amazing people.

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I know you are going to be motivated, inspired and

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informed by what they have to share. To kick off

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this season, I am so excited to share with you

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a conversation I had with none other than Churia pit

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Churia obviously, is most well known for being caught in

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a grass fire when she was competing in an ultra

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marathon back in twenty eleven. She sustained burns to sixty

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five percent of her body, and you may not be

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aware that she actually died on the operating table and

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was revived. She not only defied the odds with her recovery,

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but She's gone on to set and achieved some incredibly

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ambitious goals. She is now a motivational speaker, an author, humanitarian,

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success coach, wife, and of course, mother to one year

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old Huck of Eye. I spoke to Taria about the

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mindset strategies that she used to recover from her injuries

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and why she believes in setting massive goals. I know

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you are going to love this conversation, Tria. Thank you

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so much for coming in to talk to me today.

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Thank you so much for having me.

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You are most commonly known for being caught in an

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ultra marathon grass fire and sustaining burns to sixty five

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percent of your body. This show is called Crappy to Happy,

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and I can't think of too many things that are

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really get.

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Much crappier than that.

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So what I thought I would like to ask you,

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first of all, was if you can go back to

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when that happened, when you first woke up and realized

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the extent of your injuries, what was the first thing

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that went through your mind.

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Yeah, I guess that's kind of a hard question to

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answer because I don't really have one definitive moment where

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I was fully cognizant of the extent of my injuries

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and also the amount of rehabilitation and the amount of

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work that I'd have to put in to my recovery.

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So I guess that might have been my saving grace

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at the same time, because I wasn't.

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Really too aware of how badly I was burnt.

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I think one of the first one of the first

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things that I was asked to do was I'd been

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in a kama for a month and my physio came

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into the room one morning and he said, Okay, my

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name is Frank, I'm a physio, and I'm here to

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help you learn how to stand again. And he picked

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he pulled me up, and I was screaming with agony,

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and I was on the edge of the bed and

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he said, okay, why don't you think now we're going

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to stand? And I stood up, and I just I

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was leaning against him. I wasn't supporting any of my

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own weight, and I was sobbing and I was crying.

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And it wasn't just because of the payment, was because

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I guess that was the moment where I realized just

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how long my road to recovery was because I couldn't

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even stand up by myself. You know, I'd been burnt

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running in an ultra marathon and now I couldn't even walk,

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I couldn't even run. So I realized at that point

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I couldn't just focus on what my life used to

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look like, because if I did that, what would have happened.

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I would have been demoralized. You know, when we're here,

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we want to get to there, but there is so

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far away. It's really easy for us to feel disheartened

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and overwhelmed and demoralized.

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So you know a lot of the time we just

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give up before we even start.

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And so what I would do at the beginning of

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the day, I would say to myself, I'd set it

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really small goals. So today I'm going to walk to

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the door of my hospital room, or today I'm going

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to walk ten steps down the hallway. So I broke

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it down into really manageable and really easily digestible steps.

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And I've actually just been reading your book, Unmasked. I

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know it's not your only book, but I think it's

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the most recent one at this point. Yeah, yep, yes,

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And I have to say, by the way, fantastically written.

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You are a masterful storyteller. I know that people are

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interested in your story, but you have a real talent

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for writing. I would recommend anybody read it. Ah, thank you,

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You're most welcome. And in the book, you talked about

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very early on in your recovery deciding that you were

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going to get back and you were going to complete

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an Ironman triathlon, which is one of the most grueling

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endurance events in the world. And I'm just really curious

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about what was it that inspired you to set such

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a big goal.

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Yeah, that's a good question.

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I think the trap that a lot of us fall

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into is we played a little too safe with goals

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that we set. And I think the only way that

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we become we become more of what we already are,

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and that we go beyond what our current capabilities are,

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is to set a really massive, really audacious goal. And

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for me that was Ironman, because I was told that

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I'd never be able to run again, and yet I

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decided to do this crazy iron Man, which is a

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you know, four klumeter swim, one hundred and eighty klumbitter

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bike ride, and then a whole marathon at the end

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of it.

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So I think if I'd never set that.

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Goal of doing an iron man, I never would have

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been fit enough to do an iron man, Like, does

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that make sense? So I think when people say to me,

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you know, I'm going to sign up for a marathon

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when I'm fit enough. That's the sort of things they

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say to me in my School of Champions, or you know,

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I'm going to do this when I'm fitter, or I've

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lost weight, or I've got more money or a house.

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I think they do it backwards. I think, you know,

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the first thing you do is set a goal. You

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find a really crystal clear and compelling reason for wanting

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to do that goal, and then that makes it easier

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for you to do the work to get you there.

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Yeah, And I know that also you had other smaller

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goals on the way, like, for example, somebody one of

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the doctors challenged you to climb to the top of

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the stairs. Do you want to talk about that, just briefly,

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about getting to the top of the stairs?

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Yeah? Yeah, yeah.

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So that was after I'd learned how to stand up

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and walk again, and I used to do one flight

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of the stairs every single day, and I was really

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proud of myself because I thought that that's a pretty

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good achievement. And I told one of my surgeons and

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he said to me all that. He said, so you

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should be doing all of them, and I thought, you

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know what, righty, I will do all of them. I

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did the stairs every single day for about six months.

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And it doesn't mean I got better at them every day,

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you know, because improvements not always linear.

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But the main thing.

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Is that I was consistent and I applied myself, and

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by the end of the staying that hospital, I was

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able to do every single one of those two hundred

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and thirty four stairs up to the brands in it.

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And I think that plays into what I was saying

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about goal setting. You know, you have the goal, you

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have your reason for why you want to achieve it.

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So my reason for wanting to do that was I

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wanted to prove my surgeon wrong. Yeah, and then you've

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also got to put in the work consistently, absolutely.

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And that that makes sense, Yes, it does. So you

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set the big goal, but then you take the small actions.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.

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Can we just pick up on that he told me

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that I couldn't do it. It occurs to me that this

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is something that has always been within you. If somebody

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tells you that you can't do something, you are more

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determined to go ahead and prove them wrong.

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Yeah.

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If someone tells me I can't do something, it's like

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waving a red flag at a ball like. But I

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guess I'm lucky in that I've recognized that in myself

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and I've used that to be able to motivate me,

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because I think we can all be motivated to do

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anything we want.

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You know, I don't know. I don't know.

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If you're a mum, yeah I am, yep. Yeah.

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So you know, as a parent, you would do absolutely

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anything in the world for your kid, you know. And

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I think if I said to you, would you be

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able to do an ultra marathon if I gave.

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You five dollars?

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You no?

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Okay?

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Now what if I took your kids away and I

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said you're never going to see them again until you

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do an ultra marathon?

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Yeah? Absolutely, there we go.

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So we can all get incentive, we can all get leverage,

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we can all be motivated into doing something. We just

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need to really work out what that point is for ourselves.

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And I guess I'm I'm blessed and that when people

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tell me that something can't be done, I find that

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a really motivating factor.

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I did glean that from reading your book.

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Yeah.

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What I also.

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Wondered about that though, is and I know there will

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be people who listen or people who hear your story

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and just assume that this quality or this drive, this

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motivation to overcome challenges is something that you're just born with.

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What do you have to say to those people who say, well,

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that's all well and good for her, but I'm just

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not wired that way.

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I guess you know, like how you, Saint Bolt is

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the fastest man in the world over one hundred meters

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and not all of us have U Saint Balt's DNA

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or genetics, so probably you know, if you trained, you

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probably wouldn't be able to run as fast as you.

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Saint Balt.

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Having said that, if you got a running coach, if

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you did training every day, if you analyzed your speed

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and you take off and how fast you're going, and

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you change your shoes and you joined a running group,

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I can bet you a million dollars that after a

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year you'd be a better runner.

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Absolutely.

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So I think the same principle applies when you're talking

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about your mindset or when you're talking about whether or

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not you can overcome challenges.

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We can do it.

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It's just about how much practice you've had it doing it,

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how much how much work you're doing on improving in mindset.

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Yeah, Tria, I'm not saying that.

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I'm not saying that everyone's going to be excellent at

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it straight away. No, just like not everyone's going to

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be an excellent runner straight away.

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But everybody's got the potential to grow.

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Everyone's got yeah, just like everyone's got potential to be

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a better simmer, or a better parent or a better colleague.

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I just want to say also that when people hear

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your story or when people you know, people use words

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like inspiring and motivating and all of.

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That to describe you.

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I've actually, before you came in here to talk to me,

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I met a few people who have met you and

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have known you, and the word that most often is

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used to describe you from those people is funny. They

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say that you have you have the best sense of humor,

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and I'm just I would just be really, I don't

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know that we always see that side of you publicly,

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and I'm wondering, like, how important has that been for

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you to maintain your sense of humor in such the

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face of such aversity.

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I think it's.

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Important for anyone.

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Like if you're having a bad day and you can

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have a laugh about it.

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You instantly feel better. Yeah.

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Yeah, And I think the more you can inject humor

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into your every day and not take yourself so seriously,

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you know, because I think life's for living. It's not

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something that always has to be taken so serious, like

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we all do. We all have a tendency to take

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ourselves and our problems and our issues so seriously. But

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I also think there's a lot of benefit in just

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cutting all of that away and just constantly trying to

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find that the good in the situation or the funny

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in the situation. I'm not saying it's always possible, and

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that doesn't mean that you're not going to have shit days,

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but I think there's a real skill in being able

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to see the funny side in situations. And I had

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a really funny mum growing up who was always doing

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that with us kids. And she would do that with

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me in the hospital, you know, imitate the doctors in

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funny voices. She'd make me laugh every single day. And

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I think I'm really grateful to my mum for giving

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that to me.

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But do you feel also pressure given your situation and

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given the feel that you're in, do you feel that

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pressure to always be positive? I mean you said before

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everybody has shitty days, right, So yeah, do you feel

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like I don't.

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Really think I'm a positive person.

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To be honest, really, I think, yeah, I think I'm

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a realist. Like I know, if I want to get

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over there, I can look at things through the negative

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lens and that's going to make me feel really shit,

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or I could look at things through the positive lens.

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That's going to make me feel good and more empowered

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and therefore more likely to get to the destination that

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I want to get to. And I also know that

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if I just put in the work and I do

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the yards and I do the time, anything's possible. So

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I don't go through life, you know, saying affirmations or

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using manches or anything like that. If they work for people,

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I think that's great, good for them. They don't work

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for me. But yeah, I would consider myself a realist.

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I think I find it really interesting to you that

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for all that you've been through and the positive attitude

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that you really have maintained and the way that you

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have turned this tragic, tragic event into around and used

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it as the impetus to improve your life and the

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lives of other people. Is really positive. I find that

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interesting that you don't consider yourself.

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Sorry, I've just fully cut you off there. Maybe it's

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that I don't consider it like you know, with my

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ability to overcome challenges. I don't think positive positivity is

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and ingrained, innate attribute that we have. Like I think

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we've got this really binary view of the world. We think, well,

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you're either that or you aren't. You're athletical or you're not.

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You're smart, you're not. You're funny or you're not. You're

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positive or you're not. You're resilient or you're not. And

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I don't think I think that view is quite constrained.

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I don't think the world really works like that. So

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I wouldn't consider myself a super positive person. But I

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consistently make the choice to see circumstances in my life

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as a positive thing because that helps me grow and

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that helps me get to where I eventually want to go.

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I guess you.

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Sorry.

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I guarant see if you wake up in the.

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Morning and you say to yourself, what are all the

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shit things that happened to me yesterday, and you go

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through there in your head and you think about them,

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I can guarantee you're gonna wake up and you're gonna

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feel really crap about yourself.

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But if you wake up from the morning from a.

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Place of gratitude and really reflect on everything in your

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life that you're grateful for, whether that's your kids, your partner,

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your job, your health, your well being, whatever, and you

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come from a place of gratitude, going to be better

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or worse?

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Yeah, obviously better.

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There we go.

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So it's not rocket science, no, you know, it's COmON sense.

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And what you're saying, what I'm hearing you're saying about

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all of this is that everything's a choice that we

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basically we make our decisions about where we put our energy,

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where we direct our thoughts, everything.

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Yeah, exactly, Tria.

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In your book, when you did achieve your goal, we

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should mention that you did achieve your goal of completing

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the iron Man. Congratulations. And then you also were invited

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to the Hawaiian Iron Men, which is the World Championships,

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which is next level grueling, right, And in one part

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of that race, during the bike ride, you what people

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may not know about you since your accident is you

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don't have the capacity to cool yourself. You can't sweat,

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and so when you overheat, you actually need to cool

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down physically.

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Right, to pour water on yourself.

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Yep.

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Correct.

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And so during that bike ride, in riding through the

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middle of the lava fields, you knew that you were

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getting too hot and you knew that you needed to

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cool down, and there was no water available.

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Yes, yes, I do. I do remember that point in

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my life.

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Yes, and I was.

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I mean, the fact that you went on and completed

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that race is just another sign of your tenacity. But

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the fact is, I was thinking as I was reading that,

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why you came so close to dying? You did die.

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Why is it that compels you to put yourself in

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these situations where you might die again? Like?

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What's that about?

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Yeah? I don't think I was in danger of dying

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in the Iron.

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Man, Okay, Like, good to know.

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It wasn't like, you know, a life on death situation.

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With each pedal stroke, I was hovering on the brink.

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It wasn't quite like that. You know, there was medical supervision,

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there was as stations and everything. But I guess it

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comes back to having that really, really compelling reason for

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why you want to do something.

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Like I said to you before.

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You know, if I said I was going to take

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your kids away unless you did an ultra marathon, would

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you be able to do it? And you said yes.

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So for me, the reason why I wanted to do

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an iron Man is after my accident. You know, doctor said,

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you won't be able to run again, you won't better

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have that crazy physical life you used to have, but

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you know, on the upside, you might be able to

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drive again. You know, you might get a job, that

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sort of stuff. And I thought that was such bullshit.

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You know, that I'd had an accident and now all

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of a sudden, everyone of the expectations of me were

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suddenly plummeted, and I found that really infuriating. So I

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decided I wanted to do an iron Man because I

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wanted to be fitter, faster, and stronger than I was

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in the Ultra marathon where I was catastrophically injured. And

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that's a super compelling reason for wanting to do something,

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and that was what got me out of bed in

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the mornings. That's what kept me going through my longer

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training ride, and that's what that's part of what kept

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me going in the Iron Man itself. So just having that,

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you know, you know, like a new year's resolution, Like

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you know, people say, oh, yeah, next year, I want

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to lose weight. But what does that? What does that

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even mean to them? You know, like how much emotion

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is connected to it? Why do they want to lose weight?

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What's it about? How much weight do they want to lose?

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And it's almost like we let ourselves down before we

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even begin, and then we feel bad about ourselves because

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we haven't achieved it when it was just something that

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we never even gave that much thought to. So in

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School of Champions, I really try and unpack all of

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that psychology behind goal setting. You know, not only setting

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a goal, but you know, making sure it's the right

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goal for you. Do you want to do a marathon

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because you like running or you just think you should

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do it because all of your mates like running? You know,

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that's some of the stuff I talk about the reason

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for why you.

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Want to do it. That's so super important.

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That's what's going to keep me going when times get tough,

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because on your way to achieve an audacious goal, times

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are definitely going to get tough, you know, there's a

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section on breaking your barriers, writing down your fears and

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then finding a way to overcome each and every one

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of them. So, like you know what you were saying

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about the water, that was one of my biggest fears

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in iron men, that I can't cool myself down. So

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if I get hot, you know, I don't sweat, that

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just means I keep getting hotter and hotter and hotter.

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So I thought, well, maybe that means I can't do

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an iron man. Maybe I shouldn't do it. But then

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I thought about it a little more carefully and I

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was like, no, if I wear a heart rate monitor,

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I'll be able to keep an eye on my heart

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rate and if my heart rates spikes, I'll know then

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that I need to back off the pace a little bit.

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So there's a lot of thought that needs to go

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in when you're setting a goal, and I feel that

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it's a step that a lot of people miss and

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then they feel bad when they shouldn't feel bad. It's

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just because I've never really set a goal using the

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right steps.

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And not anticipating those obstacles before they happen and working

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out how you do exactly.

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You know, write it down, what's your fear. It's like,

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you know, I don't have ten fingers, so I can't

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ride a bike. That's a pretty big fear. Yeah, you

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know I can't break How am I going to put

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on my wet suit? How am I going to call

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myself down? What if I get really cold? Because I

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can't warm myself up either? So what if I get

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really cold during four kilometers of thing which is two

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hours immerse in the water?

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Like?

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Wow, there's all of those things. What I thought about

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them all before the race? You know, you don't just

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rock up on the day and hope for the vest.

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No, but you know we can. We can use anything

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as an excuse.

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You know, I could have said, well, I don't have

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ten fingers, so then a four I can't ride a bike,

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which means I can't do the Iron Man, so yeah,

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I won't about to do it. Or I can't regulate

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my body temperature, so then then you know I can't

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really run anymore. It's like I don't have time to

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do that, or I don't have the money to do that.

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We can always find a way to make things happen

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if we're willing to adjust our lives and prioritize things differently,

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and that's some of the hard truths I guess I

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serve in the School of Champions.

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I want to talk about School of Champions. Yeah, can

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you just tell us a bit more about that. This

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is a program that you run. It's online.

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Is this correct?

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That's correct?

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Yes? And do you want to tell us about that?

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It's an online program. It covers my seven steps steps

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to goal setting success. And through the steps, you know,

479
00:22:36.960 --> 00:22:40.880
I help people unpack what kind of stuff they actually like,

480
00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:42.839
you know, because a lot of people don't even really

481
00:22:42.880 --> 00:22:46.440
know what sort of stuff they're interested in. And then

482
00:22:46.559 --> 00:22:48.200
you know, what could be the right goal for them,

483
00:22:48.240 --> 00:22:49.920
Why would they want to achieve that goal? What are

484
00:22:49.960 --> 00:22:52.880
all their barriers to achieving that potential goal?

485
00:22:53.359 --> 00:22:54.319
Then we talk about their.

486
00:22:54.200 --> 00:22:59.079
Willpower, their habits, creating the right support team of people

487
00:22:59.119 --> 00:23:02.039
around them as well. It goes over seven weeks, but

488
00:23:02.079 --> 00:23:05.640
obviously some girls will take longer than seven weeks to achieve.

489
00:23:06.920 --> 00:23:08.640
But what I hope I do is, or what I

490
00:23:09.119 --> 00:23:12.319
feel I do, is I provide a really solid framework

491
00:23:12.640 --> 00:23:15.720
for them to work from. And it's been really awesome.

492
00:23:16.279 --> 00:23:17.920
The shit that people have done in the school has

493
00:23:17.960 --> 00:23:21.039
been crazy. A lady quit a job, to start a

494
00:23:21.079 --> 00:23:25.519
blueberry farm just going really well. People who aren't athletic

495
00:23:25.559 --> 00:23:27.599
at all sign up for marathons and smash it.

496
00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:28.920
You know.

497
00:23:29.039 --> 00:23:33.279
People change jobs, they change countries, they move careers, they

498
00:23:33.720 --> 00:23:36.000
sign up for all these sorts of crazy events. So

499
00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:39.759
it's actually been really, actually really inspiring for me, to

500
00:23:39.759 --> 00:23:44.039
be honest, because it's it makes me feel like the

501
00:23:44.079 --> 00:23:48.000
work that I do not only does it work, but

502
00:23:48.279 --> 00:23:50.599
it also makes a different difference to people.

503
00:23:51.279 --> 00:23:54.720
Everything that you're saying is so relevant to our listeners.

504
00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:57.200
These are topics that we have, you know, touched on

505
00:23:57.279 --> 00:24:00.200
before in other episodes, but and you really pull it

506
00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:02.279
all together. And I think that your School of Champions,

507
00:24:02.319 --> 00:24:04.160
honestly would be something that they would all be really

508
00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:07.119
interested in. What's just one thing that you can give

509
00:24:07.160 --> 00:24:09.480
people to take away. What's something that they could implement

510
00:24:09.519 --> 00:24:12.720
straight away if they're, you know, really wanting to start

511
00:24:12.759 --> 00:24:15.119
to put some of this into practice in their own life.

512
00:24:16.079 --> 00:24:19.160
Yeah, I guess one of the simplest and easiest things

513
00:24:19.160 --> 00:24:23.240
that they could do is to start using the word Yet.

514
00:24:24.160 --> 00:24:27.920
So when I was a kid, I remember doing really

515
00:24:27.920 --> 00:24:29.400
bad on a mass test and I came home and

516
00:24:29.440 --> 00:24:31.799
I said to my mom I'm really crap at mass,

517
00:24:31.799 --> 00:24:34.759
I can't do it. And she said to mentary, she said,

518
00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:38.279
you're crapit maths now and you can't do it yet.

519
00:24:38.880 --> 00:24:42.400
And just by using that three letter word, what does

520
00:24:42.440 --> 00:24:44.559
that do for us? It reminds us that our situation

521
00:24:44.839 --> 00:24:47.759
isn't permanent, and that also gives us hope. And hope

522
00:24:47.880 --> 00:24:51.799
is a really awesome feeling to take with you as

523
00:24:51.839 --> 00:24:53.359
you progress into the future.

524
00:24:53.839 --> 00:24:57.599
Yeah, I love that. That's really that growth mindset. Yeah, thing,

525
00:24:57.680 --> 00:24:58.000
isn't it.

526
00:24:58.000 --> 00:24:59.680
Well, I'll give you I'll give you another one. This

527
00:24:59.720 --> 00:25:02.240
is one that I learned since having a little baby.

528
00:25:02.319 --> 00:25:05.680
My little son's fourteen months old now, but when I

529
00:25:05.759 --> 00:25:10.359
first had him, you know, as you probably know, Okay,

530
00:25:10.640 --> 00:25:14.519
it's quite overwhelming at the start, and I found myself

531
00:25:14.599 --> 00:25:16.119
I was always saying, I have to go do this,

532
00:25:16.839 --> 00:25:18.480
you know, hucke of eyes crying. I have to go

533
00:25:18.519 --> 00:25:20.640
pick him up. I have to go wash his clothes,

534
00:25:20.640 --> 00:25:23.039
I have to go get his food organized.

535
00:25:23.079 --> 00:25:23.640
I have to do this.

536
00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:25.880
I have to clean the house, I have to do that.

537
00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:29.440
And I was telling myself, I have to do all

538
00:25:29.480 --> 00:25:32.720
of these things, and it made me feel like I

539
00:25:32.759 --> 00:25:39.720
was resenting my beautiful, perfect baby boy. And so then

540
00:25:39.839 --> 00:25:41.920
instead of saying I have to, I decided to say

541
00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:44.279
I get to I get to go pick up pucke

542
00:25:44.279 --> 00:25:46.480
of eye, I get to go feed hucketbye. And I

543
00:25:46.519 --> 00:25:49.319
get to be here and be around and watch him

544
00:25:49.319 --> 00:25:53.240
grow up. And just by changing just that one word,

545
00:25:54.119 --> 00:25:57.480
that shifted the focus from one of obligation to one

546
00:25:57.519 --> 00:25:58.240
of gratitude.

547
00:25:58.359 --> 00:25:59.480
I love that. I love that.

548
00:25:59.559 --> 00:26:03.359
Yeah, And how easy is that, I know if I

549
00:26:03.400 --> 00:26:05.160
have to remind myself of that one as well?

550
00:26:05.240 --> 00:26:06.799
Like I have to go to work now, I get

551
00:26:06.839 --> 00:26:07.480
to go to work.

552
00:26:07.599 --> 00:26:10.279
Yeah, yeah, exactly, And like even just when you when

553
00:26:10.319 --> 00:26:13.279
you say that, you notice your whole physiology, your whole

554
00:26:13.279 --> 00:26:14.400
body actually changes.

555
00:26:14.599 --> 00:26:14.880
Yes.

556
00:26:15.359 --> 00:26:18.279
What's your take on having a morning routine? Are you

557
00:26:18.319 --> 00:26:20.880
four morning routines or or no?

558
00:26:21.200 --> 00:26:24.200
Yeah, I'm definitely a former morning routines. And I think,

559
00:26:24.359 --> 00:26:27.359
you know, either you run the morning or the morning

560
00:26:27.359 --> 00:26:29.880
will run you. And I think the morning it's it's

561
00:26:29.880 --> 00:26:32.920
such a sacred time. You know, you're at home and

562
00:26:32.960 --> 00:26:36.799
you're with your family, and it's the first thing that

563
00:26:36.839 --> 00:26:39.759
people do. Oh, actually, let me let me rephrase. What's

564
00:26:39.759 --> 00:26:41.119
the first thing you do in the morning?

565
00:26:41.599 --> 00:26:44.000
Generally, the first thing I do is have coffee.

566
00:26:44.480 --> 00:26:47.440
Okay, coffee, Well, that's what I do as well. But

567
00:26:47.480 --> 00:26:49.079
for a lot of people, the first thing they do

568
00:26:49.279 --> 00:26:52.079
when they're in bed is they reach over and they

569
00:26:52.119 --> 00:26:57.680
grab their What are they I don't do it, Well,

570
00:26:57.720 --> 00:27:00.440
you're a legend then, but they grab their phone. They

571
00:27:00.519 --> 00:27:04.480
starts going through seeing the text messages and mail and

572
00:27:04.640 --> 00:27:07.839
inbox and alerts and everything that's coming overnight. And then

573
00:27:07.839 --> 00:27:09.559
what does that do for them? That already puts them

574
00:27:09.599 --> 00:27:11.920
on the back foot for the day, because They're already

575
00:27:11.920 --> 00:27:13.400
in that state of mind, like I've got to do

576
00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:16.519
all of this shit for everyone else before I've even

577
00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:19.480
addressed what it is that I need for this day. Yeah,

578
00:27:19.920 --> 00:27:21.680
so the first thing I do in the morning is

579
00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:24.599
I don't look at my phone. I make a coffee.

580
00:27:25.559 --> 00:27:27.960
A Harkbye always wakes me up, so he's on my head.

581
00:27:27.960 --> 00:27:29.880
I put him down the floor with some toys. I

582
00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:32.200
make a coffee, I come back, I sit down, I

583
00:27:32.240 --> 00:27:35.960
watch him play, and I do my gratitude practice, which

584
00:27:35.960 --> 00:27:38.480
is where I think of three things in my life

585
00:27:38.839 --> 00:27:42.640
that I'm really grateful for. So this morning it was

586
00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:45.079
from my brother to Ricky, who came over early to

587
00:27:45.119 --> 00:27:47.079
come for a surf with me. It was from my

588
00:27:47.119 --> 00:27:49.319
mom who came over to look after hark of Eye

589
00:27:49.960 --> 00:27:53.640
while we went for a surf. And the last thing

590
00:27:53.839 --> 00:27:56.000
was my colleague. He's doing a lot of work in

591
00:27:56.000 --> 00:27:58.759
setting up School of Champions at the moment. So the

592
00:27:58.880 --> 00:28:02.559
smaller the things the better, and the simpler the things

593
00:28:02.559 --> 00:28:04.119
are better. But you know, because you can't always be

594
00:28:04.200 --> 00:28:08.359
going on a six month drawn around Europe as much

595
00:28:08.400 --> 00:28:12.200
as we'd like to and just really hiding in on

596
00:28:12.559 --> 00:28:14.759
what it is that you're grateful for, and for me,

597
00:28:14.920 --> 00:28:18.279
starting my day from a place of gratitude always means

598
00:28:18.279 --> 00:28:20.559
that the rest of my day goes extremely well.

599
00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:24.119
Yeah, and was this number four coming here not to

600
00:28:24.200 --> 00:28:24.839
the podcast?

601
00:28:26.240 --> 00:28:30.200
Oh yeah, no it was number one.

602
00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:33.640
But like you know, I thought it's willing I have

603
00:28:33.680 --> 00:28:38.160
to go do this podcast and then I was like, no,

604
00:28:38.319 --> 00:28:41.319
you get to, Like it's an awesome opportunity. You're in

605
00:28:41.400 --> 00:28:44.880
a cool position where people in Australia actually want to hear.

606
00:28:45.160 --> 00:28:46.200
What you have to say.

607
00:28:46.720 --> 00:28:48.839
And bonus, you get to pick up a new fridge

608
00:28:48.839 --> 00:28:52.559
because your fridge has been beeping incessantly for no ship

609
00:28:52.640 --> 00:28:55.160
the last six months, Like every time you open the.

610
00:28:55.160 --> 00:28:58.039
Door at beeps, so it has been a good day.

611
00:28:58.839 --> 00:29:01.880
I've kicked all the boxes, you say, yes, Trier.

612
00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:04.799
One thing that really occurred to me in learning about

613
00:29:04.799 --> 00:29:09.680
your story is that you went from being seriously highly competent,

614
00:29:09.759 --> 00:29:11.799
capable woman, ultra fit.

615
00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:15.039
You know, obviously you just started a new job.

616
00:29:15.119 --> 00:29:18.799
You're a mining engineer, you know, double degree world at

617
00:29:18.839 --> 00:29:22.079
your feet, and then you really went to being reliant

618
00:29:22.119 --> 00:29:25.119
on other people for as you said, every little thing,

619
00:29:25.200 --> 00:29:27.680
like you couldn't even stand up on your own. So

620
00:29:27.880 --> 00:29:31.599
I'm interested in, for a start, how that was for

621
00:29:31.640 --> 00:29:34.440
you psychologically to have to become so reliant on other

622
00:29:34.480 --> 00:29:37.119
people and being that vulnerable, And also what have you

623
00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:40.119
learned I guess generally about the importance of help and

624
00:29:40.119 --> 00:29:41.480
support and asking for help.

625
00:29:42.680 --> 00:29:47.720
I guess at the start, I found it infuriating, you know,

626
00:29:47.920 --> 00:29:51.640
to be completely incapacitated and not even being able to

627
00:29:51.640 --> 00:29:53.880
wipe your own ass like that.

628
00:29:53.880 --> 00:29:54.359
That was.

629
00:29:55.640 --> 00:29:58.400
It was infuriating for me, and especially being someone who'd

630
00:29:58.400 --> 00:30:02.200
always prided themselves so much on being so self sufficient

631
00:30:02.759 --> 00:30:06.240
and so independent. But the thing I found is, like,

632
00:30:06.359 --> 00:30:07.839
we have it in our heads that people are going

633
00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.079
to wind helping us to do things. Do you ever

634
00:30:11.160 --> 00:30:12.599
feel like that, like you don't want to ask them

635
00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:14.839
because you don't want to impose that wind you're going

636
00:30:14.920 --> 00:30:19.000
to be imposing. But people actually love helping, you know,

637
00:30:19.039 --> 00:30:21.119
Like when you get asked to do something for someone,

638
00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:24.000
I'm sure you're always more than happy to yeah, yes,

639
00:30:24.079 --> 00:30:27.839
unless it's unless it's helping move move. I don't help,

640
00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:28.599
I don't I don't help.

641
00:30:28.799 --> 00:30:31.960
We're generally happy to offer assistance if people need it,

642
00:30:32.000 --> 00:30:32.640
for sure.

643
00:30:33.160 --> 00:30:34.559
Yeah, because it makes us feel good.

644
00:30:34.559 --> 00:30:36.359
Like if you're in the shopping center and an old lady

645
00:30:36.440 --> 00:30:39.160
is trying to get something from the top shelf, you'll

646
00:30:39.200 --> 00:30:40.720
get it out for a handed to her, and that

647
00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:44.880
actually makes that that actually adds to your day, you know,

648
00:30:44.920 --> 00:30:47.640
because you feel like a top human. So that's what

649
00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:50.000
I really found on my journey is that people actually

650
00:30:50.440 --> 00:30:53.799
love helping and the people like feeling useful as well,

651
00:30:54.559 --> 00:30:56.240
you know. So people want to know that they can help,

652
00:30:56.240 --> 00:30:58.480
and they also want to know what they can.

653
00:30:58.400 --> 00:30:59.000
Help you with.

654
00:31:00.119 --> 00:31:04.079
Advice for people who you know are either going through

655
00:31:04.119 --> 00:31:06.799
adversity or maybe they've got someone close to them who's

656
00:31:06.839 --> 00:31:10.119
going through adversity. So if you've got someone you know

657
00:31:10.119 --> 00:31:12.319
who's going through a tough time and you don't really

658
00:31:12.359 --> 00:31:16.519
know what to say. I would suggest offering to help,

659
00:31:16.640 --> 00:31:20.400
but being really specific about it. So I wouldn't suggest

660
00:31:20.400 --> 00:31:22.960
sending a text message saying, oh, you know, let me

661
00:31:23.000 --> 00:31:25.720
know if there's anything I can do, because then that

662
00:31:25.799 --> 00:31:27.960
puts it on the person who's going through adversity, and

663
00:31:28.000 --> 00:31:31.279
it's you know, they're not going to even respond with

664
00:31:31.359 --> 00:31:33.799
really anything. So I think if you said, you know,

665
00:31:33.960 --> 00:31:38.079
I'm doing grocery shopping on Friday, I'm going to be

666
00:31:38.160 --> 00:31:41.440
coming by your house. I can grab you some milk

667
00:31:41.519 --> 00:31:43.559
and some eggs and some bread. Is there anything else

668
00:31:43.599 --> 00:31:43.920
you need?

669
00:31:44.319 --> 00:31:44.559
Yeah?

670
00:31:44.559 --> 00:31:47.319
I love that Yeah, because a person will be like,

671
00:31:47.319 --> 00:31:50.720
oh yeah, tomatoes and some steak would be awesome, thank you.

672
00:31:51.119 --> 00:31:55.880
Yeah specific being really being really specific, or you know,

673
00:31:56.000 --> 00:32:00.839
I'm making some food for you. I know you're vegetarian.

674
00:32:01.400 --> 00:32:06.599
A kidney means okay, you know, because it's implied in

675
00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:10.000
the message that you're or the communication that you're doing

676
00:32:10.000 --> 00:32:12.440
it for them anyway, and it's going to happen. And

677
00:32:12.440 --> 00:32:17.799
then you're also asking them to input their Yeah, it's

678
00:32:17.839 --> 00:32:20.880
help their preference. Yes, yeah, it's helpful to them. So

679
00:32:20.880 --> 00:32:22.720
you're not saying, hey, let me know if there's anything

680
00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:23.200
I can do.

681
00:32:23.880 --> 00:32:25.960
Yes, I really think I love that you don't.

682
00:32:25.759 --> 00:32:28.240
Really you know, if you're going through a tough time

683
00:32:28.240 --> 00:32:31.160
when someone says that to you and you're going to say, yeah,

684
00:32:31.200 --> 00:32:33.680
you can make me a kidney pie, thank you so much.

685
00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:34.200
Yes.

686
00:32:35.680 --> 00:32:37.920
And can I say also that I think when people

687
00:32:37.960 --> 00:32:40.039
say do you want me to do something? And I

688
00:32:40.039 --> 00:32:42.720
mean even on a day to day level, like if

689
00:32:42.720 --> 00:32:44.839
people say can I do something? Me having to think

690
00:32:44.839 --> 00:32:46.680
about what you can do is just another job for me.

691
00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:51.960
It's another thing for me to think about. Its thinking exactly, yeah, exactly.

692
00:32:52.400 --> 00:32:54.960
But I also want to put it on, you know,

693
00:32:55.039 --> 00:32:57.640
on the person that needs to support or needs to help.

694
00:33:00.160 --> 00:33:02.599
You can't get annoyed with people for not helping if

695
00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:06.359
you if you haven't asked them specifically for what it is.

696
00:33:06.319 --> 00:33:07.119
That you need help with.

697
00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:10.400
So you got to speak out and you've got to

698
00:33:10.440 --> 00:33:12.599
be really specific and really clear about what it is

699
00:33:12.640 --> 00:33:15.880
that you need. So you can't say, oh, I really

700
00:33:15.880 --> 00:33:20.039
need help at the moment you say, look, I'm trying

701
00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:22.759
to get into this graphic design school in New York.

702
00:33:23.200 --> 00:33:24.240
It's a pretty big deal.

703
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:26.440
I really want someone to sit down with me for

704
00:33:26.440 --> 00:33:29.599
three hours to review my designs. I trust you because

705
00:33:29.599 --> 00:33:33.039
you're awesome with fashion and putting together looks. Are you

706
00:33:33.119 --> 00:33:35.519
able to come over? How we pick out which are

707
00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:37.480
the options are the best? And I'll make your dinner

708
00:33:38.240 --> 00:33:40.599
and that's perfect. You can't just say I really need

709
00:33:40.640 --> 00:33:44.480
help because you're not being very specific about what it

710
00:33:44.519 --> 00:33:45.759
is that you need help with.

711
00:33:47.240 --> 00:33:50.279
And do you so this is something that you implement

712
00:33:50.319 --> 00:33:50.920
now in your life.

713
00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:52.279
If you need help, you ask for it.

714
00:33:53.720 --> 00:33:54.000
Yeah.

715
00:33:54.039 --> 00:33:56.519
So I said to mum, can you come over early

716
00:33:56.599 --> 00:33:58.880
in the morning because my brother and I were going

717
00:33:58.960 --> 00:33:59.640
for a surf.

718
00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:01.079
Yeah.

719
00:34:01.119 --> 00:34:02.680
So I didn't say I didn't get annoy at her

720
00:34:02.680 --> 00:34:05.400
because she's not helping out enough. I didn't expect her

721
00:34:05.440 --> 00:34:08.960
to read my mind. I didn't say to my brother, na,

722
00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:11.679
I've got a baby. Now things have changed. I can't

723
00:34:11.719 --> 00:34:17.440
just go surfing whenever I want to, like I asked.

724
00:34:17.800 --> 00:34:20.000
If my mom had said no, I would have just

725
00:34:20.000 --> 00:34:21.840
said to my brother mate, I can't do it today.

726
00:34:21.840 --> 00:34:24.239
But when michaels back from work this harve I will

727
00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:24.559
go then.

728
00:34:24.880 --> 00:34:25.119
Yeah.

729
00:34:25.559 --> 00:34:29.559
Yeah, and I think everything's figuring outable for sure.

730
00:34:29.880 --> 00:34:30.079
Yeah.

731
00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:33.480
And this, all of this really applies to people who

732
00:34:33.639 --> 00:34:35.840
have set a goal and they're looking you know, working

733
00:34:35.840 --> 00:34:38.000
to achieve it and just knowing that they need to

734
00:34:38.000 --> 00:34:39.480
be able to ask for help when they need it.

735
00:34:39.880 --> 00:34:40.519
Yeah, for sure.

736
00:34:40.559 --> 00:34:44.119
And I think no one, no one does anything by themselves,

737
00:34:44.360 --> 00:34:46.320
you know. So I think the more we can get

738
00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:49.480
used to asking for help and see that people don't

739
00:34:49.480 --> 00:34:52.960
actually mind, and if people do in mind, they normally

740
00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:54.599
just make an excuse and then you say, Okay, well

741
00:34:54.639 --> 00:34:56.599
they don't want to help me with that, That's totally cool.

742
00:34:57.320 --> 00:34:57.559
Tree.

743
00:34:57.679 --> 00:34:59.280
The other thing that I have learned about you is

744
00:34:59.360 --> 00:35:02.320
that early on, even before this accident, you were obviously

745
00:35:02.400 --> 00:35:04.920
a person who had a very strong social conscious. You

746
00:35:05.000 --> 00:35:09.639
were doing everything that you could to help, traveling overseas, volunteering,

747
00:35:09.679 --> 00:35:14.480
and that has certainly not changed since the accident. I'm

748
00:35:14.519 --> 00:35:16.679
really interested to find out what are the causes that

749
00:35:16.760 --> 00:35:18.599
you particularly support now.

750
00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:22.920
Yeah, So just to backtrack a bit, when I was

751
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:24.800
at Evening, I got involved in all sorts of different

752
00:35:24.880 --> 00:35:26.920
charities and I was you know, I did the Forty

753
00:35:26.960 --> 00:35:29.960
Hour Famine when I was ten, and then I did

754
00:35:30.360 --> 00:35:35.599
a cycle around Cambodia for Child Fun, which was with

755
00:35:35.760 --> 00:35:38.079
one of my best friends, christ And Bridges, and that's

756
00:35:38.119 --> 00:35:41.480
also one of Dave, the producers of this show he's

757
00:35:41.519 --> 00:35:47.239
good mate. And then I went away with one charity

758
00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:51.760
to build houses for people in one Goalia, and that

759
00:35:51.800 --> 00:35:54.880
trip really struck me because where we were in Mongolia,

760
00:35:55.920 --> 00:35:58.480
the local people, well, they didn't actually want our help,

761
00:35:59.280 --> 00:36:01.599
Like we were a bunch of Union students trying to

762
00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:04.000
build houses. We didn't know what we were doing, and

763
00:36:04.039 --> 00:36:05.679
they were like, no, no, no, we've got this. We just

764
00:36:05.719 --> 00:36:09.119
want to do our own houses, our own way. And

765
00:36:10.079 --> 00:36:12.800
I guess that really resonated with me after my accident

766
00:36:12.840 --> 00:36:14.559
because I had a lot of requests coming through to

767
00:36:14.599 --> 00:36:17.000
be an ambassador for this, or an ambassador for that,

768
00:36:17.119 --> 00:36:19.239
or an ambassador for this, and I thought I could

769
00:36:19.239 --> 00:36:22.239
really just focus all of my energy on the one

770
00:36:22.440 --> 00:36:25.440
charity and make a massive difference. And the charity of

771
00:36:25.519 --> 00:36:28.679
my choice is Interplast. I found out about these guys

772
00:36:28.679 --> 00:36:31.679
through my surgeon because he volunteers for them every year,

773
00:36:31.679 --> 00:36:35.400
and Interplasts they provide surgery to people who really needed

774
00:36:35.480 --> 00:36:36.639
in developing countries.

775
00:36:37.079 --> 00:36:38.360
So let's say kids who've.

776
00:36:38.159 --> 00:36:42.719
Got lip or cleft palate, women who've had acid thrown

777
00:36:42.760 --> 00:36:47.719
on them, burn survivors, people who've had amputations, pretty much

778
00:36:47.800 --> 00:36:51.840
everything and anything that can be fixed or mediated with surgery.

779
00:36:52.320 --> 00:36:53.960
That's what Interplast does, and.

780
00:36:53.920 --> 00:36:56.599
I'm really happy to say I've helped raise over a

781
00:36:56.679 --> 00:36:59.639
million dollars for that charity. Now, I think giving back

782
00:37:00.760 --> 00:37:05.119
it's really a tenement of happiness, you know, because it's

783
00:37:05.159 --> 00:37:07.000
so easy to get caught up in all of our

784
00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:11.280
problems and what's happening in our world, and I think

785
00:37:11.360 --> 00:37:13.920
all of us, myself included, we can become a bit

786
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:16.239
self absorbed.

787
00:37:17.039 --> 00:37:17.239
You know.

788
00:37:17.519 --> 00:37:19.239
It's all about what's happening to us, and it's all

789
00:37:19.239 --> 00:37:22.480
about the world that's going directly around us. But I

790
00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:24.880
think when you step outside that and help someone else

791
00:37:25.280 --> 00:37:29.639
who's probably not as fortunate as you, it really makes

792
00:37:29.679 --> 00:37:33.880
you appreciate what you've got in your life. Yeah, Churia,

793
00:37:33.960 --> 00:37:36.440
thank you so much for joining us today. This has

794
00:37:36.519 --> 00:37:40.239
just been a fantastic conversation from my perspective, and I

795
00:37:40.280 --> 00:37:42.599
know one hundred percent that our listeners will get so

796
00:37:42.719 --> 00:37:45.719
much out of this as well. Yeah, I really appreciate

797
00:37:45.800 --> 00:37:47.840
your time today as well. I had a great chat,

798
00:37:48.119 --> 00:37:49.800
very conversational.

799
00:37:53.159 --> 00:37:54.440
What an incredible woman.

800
00:37:54.679 --> 00:37:57.760
And one thing I found really interesting during that conversation

801
00:37:57.800 --> 00:38:00.320
with Juria is that she doesn't consider her self to

802
00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:03.480
be a naturally positive person instead, she sees being positive

803
00:38:03.599 --> 00:38:06.960
as the most sensible option if she wants to live

804
00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:10.920
a happier life, and of course, choosing to be positive

805
00:38:11.199 --> 00:38:13.880
is a choice that we can all make, regardless of

806
00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:16.199
our circumstances, regardless of our temperament.

807
00:38:16.480 --> 00:38:17.559
And if you're interested in.

808
00:38:17.480 --> 00:38:20.519
Digging a little bit deeper into the benefits of injecting

809
00:38:20.559 --> 00:38:23.920
more positivity into your life and some strategies for doing that,

810
00:38:24.280 --> 00:38:26.480
I would strongly recommend that you go and check out

811
00:38:26.480 --> 00:38:29.679
the episode called Think Happy Thoughts, and of course make

812
00:38:29.719 --> 00:38:31.800
sure if you want to get involved in Turia's School

813
00:38:31.800 --> 00:38:35.039
of Champions that you check that out at Churierpit dot com.

814
00:38:35.079 --> 00:38:42.000
That's t r ia PI doublet dot com. We love

815
00:38:42.119 --> 00:38:44.599
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816
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818
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824
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825
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826
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827
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