Aug. 19, 2025

Milestones Matter: Celebrating 8 Years of Crappy to Happy

This year marks 8 whole years since we launched the Crappy to Happy pod! Join me to reflect on where it all began, which was with my friend and co-host, Tiffiny Hall, who is marking her own huge milestone this week.Moments like this in our lives remind us of the importance of pausing to appreciate how far we've come, both in our lives and in our pursuit of goals. As I reminisce about starting this podcast back in 2017, I invite you to consider your own significant moments and how they have shaped your life narrative. When we mark important dates or events, we get a chance to review, celebrate, and maybe even reconsider the path forward. Takeaways:

Celebrating milestones, like the eight-year mark of this podcast, helps us reflect on our personal journeys and growth.
It's essential to use significant events in our lives as opportunities for reflection, celebration, and reassessment of our paths.
Milestones create a narrative for our lives, allowing us to evaluate where we are and where we want to go next.

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Transcript

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This is Crappita Happy and I am your host, Cas Done.

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I'm a clinical and coaching psychologist. I'm mindfulness meditation teacher

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and of course author of the Crappita Happy books. In

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this show, I bring you conversations with interesting, inspiring, intelligent

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people who are experts in their field and who have

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something of value to share that will help you feel

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less crappy and more happy. Hello, and welcome back to

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Crappy to Happy. Very special episode today because a couple

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of days ago, let's just say this week marks the

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eight year anniversary of Crappy to Happy. Eight years is

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a long time to host a podcast, and I could

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not let this milestone go by without mentioning it. I

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know that eight years is not like you know, five

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years or ten years or twenty years, like it's not

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one of those. It doesn't feel like one of those

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significant kind of milestones, but it's still worth mentioning. Twenty seventeen,

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this podcast launched in August. I was on holidays with

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my family. We were in Disney World, Florida on this

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day eight years ago. All of the first ten episodes

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had been recorded with my friend and my co host

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at the time, Tiff Hall. Tiff and I had gone

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into the studio. We had a full schedule of the

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topics that we wanted to cover in our first series

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of ten episodes. We recorded them and they were all

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scheduled for release on that date when I was out

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of the country, and I remember being so excited to

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get the email to say that they had gone live.

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It was it was huge. It was a huge moment.

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So for anybody who has been around since those early days,

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thank you so much for being here sticking with me

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for this long time. I am more determined than ever.

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Not that I was ever not going to continue, I

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don't think, but I am certainly more committed than ever

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to seeing it through to ten years, because this whole

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time I've been going, oh, eight years is not really

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that special. Ten years now, that's a real milestone. So

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you can be sure that I will be here for

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another couple of years so that we can do that

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one in style. We will celebrate that in a big way. Yeah,

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So it did cause me to pause and reflect a

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little bit, as you do when milestones roll around, to

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really look back on the past eight years. And not

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that I necessarily want to bore you with all of that,

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because that's sort of my personal reflection. Maybe if you've

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been around here for a while, you'll have your own

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reflections on what this podcast has meant for you or

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world have been your favorite episodes or guests or moments

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or whatever in the last eight years. But it did

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cause me to think about just the importance of milestones

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and markers in our lives and the opportunity that they

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present to reflect and to take stock and review, I guess,

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and also to pause and consider maybe what is coming

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next now. Interestingly and purely coincidentally, there has also been

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some big news this week about my former co host

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Tiffany Hall. So if you have not been around since

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the beginning, allow me to just give you this little recap.

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My very good friend Tiffany Hall is a celebrity fitness

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trainer in Australia. She has been running a very successful

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online fitness program health and wellbeing program Workouts, Meals, Recipes,

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Mindfulness and I was part of that program from the

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very beginning. So I was the resident psychologist on that program.

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I provided meditation scripts. I don't think I actually ever

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recorded the meditations. I definitely wrote all the scripts for

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the meditations. I wrote blogs and articles and did Facebook lives,

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and really my role was obviously to do with the

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mental health side of things, but not so much mental

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health though it was mental health, but you know, the motivation,

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the mood, mindfulness, all of that kind of emotional wellbeing

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and the psychology of goal setting and overcoming self sabotage,

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things like emotional eating if that was an issue, things

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like you know, getting unstuck, dealing with people in your

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life if they were unsupportive of your goals, you know,

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how to work with the people around you to get

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them on board. So that was that's my role. Okay.

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So Tiff and I started doing these video segments together

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where we would discuss these shoes big part of the

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community as well, and I would get messages from people

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in my DMS, and I would get emails from the

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help desk about people struggling with certain things, and I

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would answer questions in the community, all to do with

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the psychology and the emotional wellbeing side of things. So

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I did a Facebook live every week, Mindful Monday. I

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did every single week for a while in the Facebook community.

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I see, it's all coming back to me at some

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stage during one of those Facebook Lives, somebody said, Cass,

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you should have a podcast, and I said, oh, who

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would I talk to on a podcast? What would I

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talk about? And Tiff was there and Tiff said, I'd

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talked to you on a podcast cast. And so we

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had a little joke that we should have a podcast.

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be honest, I got a call out of the blue

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from Tiff saying, hey, Cas, remember how we mentioned that podcast.

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Do you want to do a podcast together? And what

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happened was there was a new podcast network launching in Australia,

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which was podcast One Australia. It was our Australian version

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of Podcast One, which was a big network in the USA,

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say at the time, and we were invited to pitch

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to pitch a podcast, and so Tiff and I got

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our heads together and we had to draft out what

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we would talk about, and essentially it was all the

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stuff that we were talking about in her program, right.

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She was about the physical health and workouts and all

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of that kind of side of things, the physical fitness,

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and I was the mental fitness. And so we crafted

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up this series of ten episodes and we had to

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take it to a meeting and present it and talk

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about why our podcast would be so great, and we

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got it. So the Crappy to Happy Podcast was born.

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and the strategy at the time was to do this

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like Netflix strategy, which was basically ten episodes that people

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would listen to and they would binge through them like

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you binge through a Netflix series, as opposed to a

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week by week thing. I have since looked at the numbers.

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Just recently, I've looked at the numbers. Back in twenty seventeen,

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there were forty four thousand active pod casts, so active podcasts.

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The definition of active means at least one episode published

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in the previous ninety days, So ninety days is a

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long time. That's not like a previous the previous month,

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or even the previous week. So forty four thousand active podcasts,

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and that was from a total registered podcast index of

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about four hundred and forty four thousand something like that,

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four hundred and fifty thousand, So four hundred fifty thousand

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registered podcasts like in the index and forty four thousand active.

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Fast forward to twenty twenty five and there are currently

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four point six million podcasts that are listed in the

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Podcast Index. That means, you know, published somewhere, and there

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are four hundred and sixty five thousand, so it's about

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ten percent, But across the board it's sort of ten

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percent of the total listed podcast indexed podcast ten percent

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have had an episode published in the last ninety days,

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four hundred and sixty five thousand, three hundred thousand have

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published episode in the last thirty days, and two hundred

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and eight thousand have published an episode in the last

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ten days. In the last three days, there have been

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eighty three thousand podcasts have published an episode, which is

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double the number of active podcasts there were in twenty seventeen.

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This is my point, This is all My point is

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it was a very very different podcasting environment in twenty seventeen.

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Gosh it was. It was a different scene. So we

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released our ten episodes and they were obviously a huge hit,

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not just with the people in the community where we

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were working together in TIFFs community, but also those podcast

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episodes attracted new people as well. And then I lived

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in on Queensland, tif lived in Melbourne. I would fly

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to Melbourne to record these episodes. We'd sit in a

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room together for a week and record them. And so

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it took maybe I think nine or ten months at

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least for us to get back into the studio again

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to record season two, and everybody was saying, can we

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have some more? Like one of you coming back? And

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people listened to these first ten episodes over and over

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and over again, They're like, I've listened to them five times,

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can we have some more? So we recorded another ten

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and then we were ready to renew our contract because

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it was such a success. It was an amazing, smash

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hit success podcast from the word go. And then by

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the time it got around to us getting back for

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season three, which is like I'm talking going on two

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years since we started, because there was such long gaps

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between us being able to get into the studio together

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with our schedules to record these episodes. By that stage,

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Tiff had signed onto this other big project that she

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was working on. She'd gone off to work with Center,

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which was Chris Hemsworth's fitness program, and she was just timestrapped.

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She couldn't do it, so she left and that was

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decision point, and that was when we could either wrap

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it up at that point or we could continue and

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as you know, I chose to continue, and I started

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to bring in guests place of Tiff, and so then

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I started to be able to reach out and get

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people who I thought were really interesting and who had

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expertise that I didn't have that I could talk to

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on the show. And so that's the way, that's the way.

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It continued for a long time, from I think twenty

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nineteen to twenty twenty two, it was just guests, apart

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from a few episodes I did. In twenty twenty around COVID,

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I did a couple of solo episodes which were really

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really popular, and I started to get really bored with

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interviewing people, and I started to feel like I'd lost

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my way. And this is the point. This is what

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I mean about reflecting on milestones, using opportunities of milestones

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and markers to reflect and review, because I realized that

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when we started this podcast, I was the expert. I

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was bringing my expertise as a mental health professional to listeners,

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and when I started bringing guests on, I was no

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longer the expert. I was an interviewer. I'm not a journalist.

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mean selfishly like what was in that for me, I'm

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pretty much giving up all of my time. It's a

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labor of lover podcast, trust me, putting pouring so much

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into this podcast where really just to platform other people.

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I need this to be a mix. I need to

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get me back in. I need to have the opportunity

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to talk more about my expertise and offer that back

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to the listeners again. So that's when we started going

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one on one off a solo and a guest episode.

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to keep this really short, I was asked to do

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a series for Spotify. They were doing this like Daily

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your Daily Wellbeing series where you would do these little shortcasts,

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these little tiny, little five minute EPs, and they would

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roll out each morning on Spotify. And so we put

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together the Three Mindful Minutes series and I created fifty

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episodes of three Mindful Minutes and they rolled out on Spotify.

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You can still listen to them, you can still search

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three Mindful Minutes in or in Spotify. They're all still there.

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So much positive feedback on those as well, and I

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have always wanted to get back to producing more of

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the three Mindful Minutes, because those little bite sized bits

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of content are just so helpful. I had people tell

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me that the three Mindful Minutes, the daily episodes got

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them through some really, really hard times in their life,

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so that was very gratifying. I also pitched at one

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point that I wanted to when I started to really

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get into imposter syndrome in my work, and that's what

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I was really passionate about, still am really passionate about.

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I pitched an idea to do a more of a

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confidence kind of coaching podcast, and so they that was

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approved and we started off with a pilot of eight

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episodes of The Confidence Coach. Again very popular. You can

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search that on Apple or Spotify. And I have never

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created more episodes of The Confidence Coach, but again it's

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something that's still there and that I could potentially pick

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back up if there was interest. Continue to be with

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went our separate ways. It was just really not practical

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for me to continue to be with an Australian network

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while I was over here in the UK. There's so

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much more that I could say about what I've learned

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over the past eight years. But what I was going

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to say before was, interestingly I mentioned to Tiff that

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this was the eight year anniversary of the podcast. And interestingly,

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her fitness business to another online fitness company. Won't bore

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you with the details. If you're in Australia at twenty

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eight by sam Wood, you might have seen the news

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twenty eight by sam Wood has acquired TXO and TXO

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will sort of be subsumed within sam Wood. So again,

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just another really significant milestone and end of an era.

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SO and another big cause for reflection because hearing that

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news and knowing that that is where this whole thing started.

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working together and that off the cuff, you know roundom

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comment about we should do a podcast, and we should

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do a podcast together, and here we are eight years later,

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still going with Crappy to Happy and again, thank you

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for indulging me with all that little backstory. If you've

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been around for a while, I have you appreciated that

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little walk down memory lane and here we go onwards

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and upwards. We are continuing, so you with me at

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least until the ten year anniversary. And if you're interested

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in more Confidence Coach or more three mindful minutes, will

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you know hit me up. There's only so many hours

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in the day, and I don't get paid for making

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the podcast, so if you want to subscribe, didn't mean

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to turn that into a sales bitch. If you love

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the podcast, then supporting it with ten dollars a month

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would really help me out. And I love making their

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beyond Happy episodes as well. I love diving into little

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little audio series for paid subscribers, so that will be

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a big focus for me too. Is just expanding that

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what's available inside that paid subscription. But never mind, if

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you are not up for that, Crappy or Happy is

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not going anywhere. I'm here. Let's just use this opportunity

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to talk about milestones and markers and the importance of

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taking these opportunities for review. It's kind of human nature

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to mark milestones. We mark anniversaries, We mark birthdays and

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positive ones and not so positive ones as well, you know,

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weddings and divorces, births and deaths, and they mark these

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points in time where they basically contribute to our personal narrative,

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like our life story. That give us this opportunity to

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not to segment, but you know, to sort of look

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at our life in terms of these important periods and milestones,

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and it's how we sort of make sense of our life.

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How we sort of create the story of our life

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is often around these milestones. It's an anniversary for agrepit

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or happy. It may not be one for you, but

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it is helpful for you to think about if you're

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coming up to an anniversary and how long I've been

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in this job, or how long I've been in this relationship,

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or how long I've lived in this house, or you know,

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each time these dates come around and they mark another

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rotation of the sun. They don't have to be massively significant,

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but they can provide a really useful opportunity to pause

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and to consider what has happened in this preceding, Like

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who was I at the time that I started this?

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have I learned? How much have I changed? And we're

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often so busy looking forward that we don't look back,

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invitation to maybe do a little bit of that looking

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back and reflecting on how far have come and what

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has changed. And also, you know, what is still serving

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you when you think about the reasons that you started

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this thing? Are they still relevant? You know, I got

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to the eight years of crappy to happy and, like

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I said, more determined than ever to see it through

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to ten years and celebrate that milestone. TIF In terms

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of her program, you know, she's had to come to

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this decision, and I don't know all of her personal

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reasons for it. We've only had the briefest of conversations

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about it. I know it's hugely major and emotional for

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her to let go of full control of her program.

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But again, it's like for a season, you know, it's like,

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who was I when I started this? What was my objectives?

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to me? What did I want to achieve when I

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started this? Is that still relevant. Is that still current?

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life now, Like it's really important that we pause and

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consider is this still what I want? Is this still

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where I want to go? Do I need to pivot?

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stale now? Is this still serving the purpose that I

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had intended it to when it began? Just useful opportunity

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see things that we didn't see at the time necessarily.

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pitch of overview of what has happened and what's transpired,

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and we can see lessons, We can pull out learnings,

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we can spot patterns, we can see things that we

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can't necessarily see when we're right in it. I think

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do take the time to look back and reflect and

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learn and all of those things that I just said.

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set a goal which even we move on to the

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next one, or we're just so busy in the doing

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of life and the day to day of life and

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just continuing, keeping on and keeping on that we rarely

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have the time of the space or consider pausing and

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celebrating and acknowledging. You know, what you've done, what you've achieved,

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how you've grown, what you've learned, because we're just onto

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the next thing, Like that's just that's how we go. Oh,

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like what do you have to celebrate? I know I'm

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talking about me, but this is really all about how

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you can use this for yourself as well. What have

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you achieved, how have you grown, what have you learned?

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reconsider at this point in your life? Or if you've

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got a milestone coming up, like how can you mark

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that date and then intentionally use that rather than just

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letting it go by like just another day? How can

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you intentionally use that date for your benefit, you know,

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balanced in the how we present this idea, is that

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thought i'd be further along by now, you know. Sometimes

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it's not always celebrating achievements. Sometimes it's really, gosh, I've

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been at this for this long and I'm still not

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where I thought I would be, or I still haven't

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compassion that I'm always banging on about, you know, be

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kind to yourself. There's no race and there's no competition.

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bit of the old sunk cost fallacy, if you are

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continueing to pour yourself into something that doesn't work for

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with TXO. Again, I haven't talked to her, so don't

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you stick at something. We're so dog good in our

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determination to stick with something and see it through and

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build it and create the thing that we said that

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we were going to create. And maybe those milestones, you know,

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another year rolls around or another six month mark or whatever,

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is this still valid for me? Like? Am I just

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pouring my energy and heart and soul into something that

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actually I just need to be able to let go of.

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